Wow, yeah okay. I know I know I know. And I have no excuse for my behavior. I just haven’t had anything interesting to say. ANNND I am actually going to start blogging over on my (drum roll please) WEBSITE!!!! I am so excited to tell you all about my new website and my career change. Soooooo I am now and officially a writer. I feel like I wrote about my desire to be a writer a couple months ago, but I have made the steps to begin a career of freelance writing and I am so excited for this new beginning. My website is niafreeman.com (that’s my name if you didn’t know). I am moving my blog over to that website because I need to draw traffic to that there to gain more clients. Please join me over there if you like the content I have put on this blog, though it may have been sporadic. Love you all and remember progress over perfection!
I hope everyone had a family filled Christmas full of love and good food! The beginning of a whole new decade is less than 48 hours away and I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to enter the New Year with any regrets or bad vibes. So, before the New Years’ Eve Ball drops, I’m getting my affairs in order. I’m making calls, apologizing and making amends. A lot of friends, family, and acquaintances are coming with me into 2020, I don’t want bad vibes or intentions coming along with them or me.
With this in mind, there are people that you shouldn’t contact in this sweep of reconciliation. One of the biggest lessons I learned in 2019 is that “closure” is selfish and rarely leads to better understanding. People do foul things and begging them for an explanation won’t make the pain go away. It is your job to heal and move on, seeking closure will only reopen the wound you have spent too much time trying to heal.
This is my little nugget of reflection for the new year. I hope your 2020 is bright and full of new opportunities that better you in every way possible. I will do everything in my power to not stand in my own way this year by being consistent. I hope you can do the same!
Contentment is something I think about a lot. The word seems so simple and yet hardly anyone ever reaches a space in their life where they are fully content. And I don’t mean when someone is content in a moment. I mean contentment that lasts years and doesn’t wain when things don‘t go according to plan. That concept is hard for me to even conceptualize. Is not being in a content state a way to keep a person striving for better? Is being in a state of contentment really another way of settling? Is there a way to be content while still wanting and striving for better or are those polar opposites?
I don’t have any answers. Let me know what you all think. #PoP
I only have one resolution for 2020 and that’s to be more consistent. The two biggest aspects of my life that I am really focusing on in 2020 is my health and my career. There is already plenty of things I do that push me into the direction of progress concerning these areas. But, my biggest problem is doing them over a long period of time. I start something new and can maintain it for about 3 weeks, then I seem to fall off every time. Consistency is the only way either of those aspects of my life will be improved.
So health, working out is obviously as the top of my “needs to be more consistent” list. I mean who doesn’t have that as a resolution? So, I won’t harp on that too long, y’all know the vibe. Adding to the health resolution is cooking or meal prepping weekly. I started doing this back in October and though I liked it, it couldn’t find a way to make it work for me and my lifestyle. So, that is something I will spend time figuring out between now and the start of 2020. And although I did the “nothing but water” thing this year I am going to go even harder in 2020 and aim for a gallon a day. I obviously won’t start off drinking that much but my goal is to be at a gallon by May of 2020.
As for my career goals in 2020, I honestly just need to figure out what I am doing and how to make it happen. I desperately want to go back to school, but I’m not sure what I want to study or where I want to study it. I am also still working on the Doula program and starting that business venture. I have also recently become interested in writing, as you all know, and though I haven’t been posting on here I have been writing quite a bit. I need all of this figured out and have a solid plan in place by April of 2020. I know I am not giving myself a lot of time, but it’s time to figure things out.
I am so excited and nervous about the future and what is in store for me. I hope you stay on this journey with me as I focus on consistency in my life and with that consistency, more posts to come! #POP
So, I know the last post was about my hair but I dyed it and I wanted to come on here and show you all how it looks. I really love the color, but this was the first time I had ever dyed my hair and after I got over the initial fear and panic I think I’m addicted. I already have a new color in mind, but that’s not what is post is about. Anyway, here is the photo of my hair. #POP
So, I completely forgot to update you all on my hair. As of August 17, 2019, I am officially 1-year loc’d and to be honest it has been a pretty smooth experience, especially for me. I have always been the type of person who stuck to simple hairstyles that worked for me and my “lazy natural” lifestyle. I never was hip to those fancy hairstyles that took all Sunday to perfect and I definitely wasn’t one to care enough to do any protein masks or deep hair cleanses. So, when I started my locs I was completely down for something as low maintenance as “just leave your hair alone”. Where others saw locs as something that would stifle their creativity, I saw them as the perfect way to keep my hair healthy with the least amount of work. What I didn’t know and was completely unprepared for was how long I felt like my hair looked a mess. I thought 3 months tops and I would be back to slicked edges and beautiful, long locs. Boy was I mistaken. I am a year and almost 3 months in and I still don’t feel like I have ‘real’ locs yet. Whenever a stranger brings up my locs I am surprised they even noticed because to me they still look like starter locs. Besides the self-doubt, locs have been a breeze to deal with and an adventure figuring out what works for me and what doesn’t. One day I will write a post about all the ups and downs I have experienced with products. But until then… #POP
But for real this time. I promise… I think. I am very interested in becoming a better writer and when I googled ‘how to improve my writing abilities’ the smart people in my search engine told me to…can you guess? WRITE MORE! Yep, you guessed it. SO here I am with a newfound motivation to update all who care to read about my life and what makes me tick. I hope you enjoy!
I know it’s been a long time since I have blogged and I have no excuse. However, I don’t know if I discussed this on here yet but, I have started taking steps toward becoming a doula. If you don’t know Doula’s support women during childbirth. Not to get too serious, but the mortality rate for black women during childbirth is higher than any other demographic (you can check the stats here). One of the many things doulas do is be an advocate for their clients and teach their clients to advocate for themselves. Education surrounding childbirth and the support mothers to new babies need is not discussed enough or taken as seriously as it should. I am very excited about this new chapter in my life and would to share it. So far I have completed the online classes and have a few more steps to go until I am certified. I will definitely keep you all updated on my progress to becoming a doula! For those still reading thank you so much, I appreciate you to the Milkyway and back!!
As my 30-day no sweets challenge comes to a screeching halt 2 days shy of the full 30-days I want to share my experience. I’m not going to lie, 28 days in I caved to a piece of red velvet cake that tasted like a bar of mushy soap. It was not worth looing this challenge but not all was lost, I learned some valuable lessons during this month. I learned that sweets can negatively affect your skin but cutting out sweets is not a cure-all. Diet, in general, plays a huge role but an even bigger role is played by genetics. Also, there are other ways to curb a sweet tooth and believe it or not exercise really helps. But, the biggest lesson I learned was dedication. I LOVE sweets, candy, and ice cream, I didn’t really believe I would be able to get through a week without it, let alone 27 days. I plan on doing this challenge again and actually completing it. But until then I am going to buy a better red velvet cake and enjoy!
I am 13-days into my 30-day sugar fast and let me just say, this challenge is HARD! And the hardest part so far is simply remembering I am even doing the challenge in the first place. The first week went pretty well, and then all of a sudden I began to forget that I was on this fast. What began the downward spiral was a wedding I attended on Sunday, June 9th. It was time for cake and I popped out of my chair with nothing holding me back. Two bites into a key lime cake (soooooo good btw) and it dawns on me that I am supposed to be FASTING. And from that day forward it has been a struggle to remember not to eat any candy, sweets or desserts. So far, Sunday was my only actually consumption of any dessert and or sweets/candy items, but not without weeping and gnashing of teeth. Also, my skin has been flourishing and my nails are growing waaaaay too fast, I’m not sure if that has anything to do with not consuming sweets but here I am.
Lastly, I am trying not to be hard on myself if I slip up because REMEMBER it’s all about Progress over Perfection! #PoP